Why can't these scrotes just fuck each other if we cissies are so transphobic?
I see both “why don’t they ever just have sex with each other and leave everyone else alone?” and “they’re reduced to only having sex with each other because nobody wants them.” As well as less absolute versions of these. Obviously they can’t both be true, though it’s not necessarily hypocritical as it’s not always the same people saying those things. And when it is, it’s because the hypocrite holds no particular conviction, and is simply grasping at anything which would support their core belief. And regardless of hypocrisy lack thereof, that belief is that trans people are fundamentally undesirable. The irony being, if you framed it differently, either the lack of dating each other or only dating each other could both be used to support a belief that trans people are *extra* desirable. (This inability to see things from a neutral frame is part of why some people are so bad at interpreting statistics.)
And of course neither is even really true. 20 years ago, there was a lot of online lamentation by trans people about how hard it was to find a date - their IRL communities were usually too small, if they were even part of one, and their cis options were mostly chasers, and chasers were more dangerous (A lot of [most?] cases of “trans panic” were actually chasers trying to cover up their relationship, or panicking at the idea of the relationship being more than purely sexual). Those lamentations were seen by the unsympathetic as entitlement; by transitioning (or even just leaving the closet, sometimes), you made a choice to severely restrict your dating pool - what were you expecting to happen? But that was 20 years ago, a lot has changed. It’s gone from “barely dating at all” to “dating both in-community and out”.
One of the manifestations of that perception of “undesirable” (no longer nearly true as it once was) and “entitled” (varies about as much as any random person) is “not wanting to date trans people is transphobic”. Which no one actually says or means, despite frequent claims otherwise. It basically goes “I won’t date trans people because they’re not real men/women” → “It’s transphobic to say they’re not their gender identity” → “You are saying it’s transphobic not to date them”… with this sort of interaction being interpreted by the ‘phobes as same sort of aggressiveness of “you have no reason not to have sex with me which I will accept, so you must fuck me now” as bar creeps have occasionally been known to display. This is ridiculous in that unlike bar creeps, no one is trying to force anyone to date trans people, but it might go a bit deeper than that.
Here’s where it gets speculative: bigots in general are gradually becoming seen as “undesirable” by the general public. In the US they started really noticing this during the Trump administration with all the “no Republicans please” and similar, but it’s not just limited to the US. People are putting stuff on their bios and dating profiles specifically to make bigots feel unwanted and unwelcome (for example, including their preferred pronouns despite being cis). So they might need the narrative that those T-slurs are aggressively horny for them, proving that they’re still desirable, but that they can forcefully say “NO!” and have it be obeyed, proving that they’re still powerful. Because if even the “freaks” don’t want them, what exactly does it say about them?