No those things are not okay and not even what trans activists promote. We promote social transitioning for kids, and reversible stuff like puberty blockers for older kids. Almost no one is proposing irreversible surgery for children. That's just a lie your side spreads to ban surgery for everyone even adults.
No trans activists is trying to get rid of tom boys and feminine males and forcing them to transition. That isn't happening. Trans people existing isn't gay erasure.