The saddest thing is, he may already have passed the window for healing from this. People in therapy tend to acknowledge their problems to different degrees:
- The problem doesn’t exist
- The problem exists but it’s not important
- The problem exists and it’s important but the problem is unsolvable
- The problem exists, it’s important, and the problem is solvable but I’m powerless to solve or escape it
He sometimes mentions his own reactions to situations he doesn’t want to be happening (his parents’ oppressive, abusive behaviour, the ever-lengthening trail of people who he starts working on projects with and who end up disliking him, being quoted here) and says he knows better, but doesn’t apply the knowledge, and that walking away is a non-viable option (so in terms of the above list, he’s not fully exploring his options for solving or escaping his problems). And he doesn’t mention his ADD all that often but he uses that as a limiter for his options or the viability of his options when all else fails, which is a shame because there are treatments and techniques out there to manage ADHD symptoms.
And then he’s got that line of, “I must not think, feel, or act the same way as those other people” - his mum’s quote of “if you saw other people jumping off the GG Bridge, would you do the same?” (ignoring the fact that often, what the majority are doing is beneficial, not detrimental), his assertion that other people don’t think and that he can discount them on that basis (“Beep-boop, Knight man bad” from his recent quotes; “orange man bad” from his Ego Trap story; his implications that I’ve somehow ‘seduced’ people into thinking the same way as me). It’s as if ‘otherness’ is so overwhelmingly important to him that he daren’t join the rest of humanity.
A prognosis for CKR is extremely poor given his maintenance of the above problems. He’s holding himself in place very securely in such a way that he’s unlikely to change, no matter what the stimulus. Ultimately he has the right to refuse to seek help for himself, but the problem is that he imposes upon other people: he makes homophobic and racist remarks, spreads harmful propaganda (such as his comments about coronavirus being less harmful than broadcast), and describes wanting a family of his own, who he does not seem interested in breaking the cycle of abuse for.
I will continue to be aware of his presence and his posts. In theory, with CS making use of matchmakers, he could have a child within a year. I want to know that that child will be safe and not at risk of being beaten and violated the way CKR was. CKR tells me to leave him alone, and I no longer talk to him and will not do so again unless his approach to his life problems significantly change, but it wuold be ethically dubious of me to ignore a situation where a baby might be brought into the world who will be subject to the risk of abuse.