RE: I don't understand why it's women's job to liberate men and other things
The type of BS male liberation "males suffer from patriarchy too" crap you see on reddit is nothing more than males using feminist rhetoric against women. Because unfortunately mainstream feminism is very big on the "socialization is why males act bad" idea, meaning that now males can scapegoat society for how they behave. Nevermind that it's already male nature to do that, males externalize blame, unlike women, who internalize it. Allowing males to keep looking outside of their own primitive instinctual nature to find causes for their misbehaviour is a great way to maintain the status quo. The males have always done that, except now with this male lib BS they're changing it from "she wore a short skirt so she's to blame if I raped her" to "society places pressure on males to act masculine and sexual so society is to blame for the rape".
Both of those mean that unfair blame is yet again placed on women because humans can't accept their inherent nature as a violent ape, so that must mean violence is always the fault of external causes that can be fixed by a lot of talking and theorizing and educating. Which is done by women, of course. So as always throughout history, males wreck and destroy and it's women's responsibility to be kind nurturing caregivers and fix it, except this time it's labeled as feminism.